For foreign men who are serious about a Filipina

Dating a Filipina

The honest guide I wish someone had handed me before I walked into that village in 2014. Culture, family, money and respect, from twelve years of loving a Filipina and living in her world.

79 pages, instant PDF downloadWritten by Mia And Monami, together 12 years

“They're all gold diggers” isn't the whole story.

The internet sells you the worst one percent, because the worst one percent gets views. So men show up expecting a housemaid, a princess or a scam, and they get the culture completely wrong.

This book is the honest version. No fairy tales, no hate. Just what a retired Army veteran learned from more than a decade with his Filipina wife: what to ask, what to watch for, how to win her family, and how to build something that lasts.

Brother, I promise you've already found the right one two or three times. You were looking for a finished product instead of someone to build with.
Mr. Monami, retired U.S. Army veteran, Chapter 1

Twelve chapters,
three parts, one honest guide.

Read it in order. Each chapter is built on real stories and ends with “The honest takeaway,” so you can come back to the lessons in a minute.

1

Before you start

Clear your head
  • 01Why I wrote this
  • 02Forget what you've heard
  • 03Family comes first
  • 04Faith, values and respect
2

Meeting her

Online and in person
  • 05Where and how to meet her
  • 06Is she really interested in you?
  • 07Money: helping vs. being used
  • 08Courting the Filipino way
3

Building a life

Getting serious
  • 09When cultures clash
  • 10Your first trip to the Philippines
  • 11Getting serious: visas and the wedding
  • 12Building a life together
Dating a Filipina book cover

What's inside the book

Written for American, British, Australian and European men, in plain talk from one man to another.

12 story-driven chaptersPlus a prologue, 79 pages
The CENOMAR checkHow to know she isn't already married
The 20,000-peso money testSee how she handles money
Red flags that cost men thousandsThe endless emergency, the "brothers"
A first message that gets repliesWord for word
Her family, your boundariesReal numbers, no fights
Your first trip, step by stepAirport, Grab, family time
Fiancé visa and the weddingK-1, I-129F, why not marry there
"The honest takeaway"A one-minute recap after every chapter
Resources and a full indexFind any topic fast

A look inside

Three real pages from the book, in its own design.

Chapter 1, Why I Wrote This page
Chapter 1, Why I Wrote ThisWhere it all started: the Army, MySpace, and a village in the rainforest.
Chapter 6, the money test page
Chapter 6, the money testThe 20,000-peso test and the receipts Mia never had to show me.
Chapter 7, Money page
Chapter 7, MoneyWho pays for dates, pasalubong, and the crowd test.
Real stories, real lessons

Not theory. Things that actually happened.

Chapter 1

The bridge that gave way

A sign said 90 kilos max. I weighed 119. Everyone ran away from me. One girl ran toward me. That's how I knew.

Chapter 6

Her mom died three times

Monday, Tuesday and Friday, all in one month. How to spot the endless emergency before it drains you.

Chapter 9

The three-day fight over “silly”

One playful word, one huge cultural misunderstanding. What it taught us about patience.

Is this book for you?

It's for you if

  • You're dating a Filipina, talking to one online, or thinking about it
  • You want a real relationship, not a vacation fling
  • You've been burned before, or you're worried you will be
  • You want her family's respect and to get the culture right
  • You're thinking about a visit, a fiancé visa or a life together

It's not for you if

  • You're looking for pickup lines or a quick hookup
  • You want a guide to the bar scene
  • You think money should buy you a relationship
  • You need legal advice for a complex visa case. Please see a licensed attorney
Mia And Monami
Written by a couple who lived it

Twelve years, three countries, one honest story.

I'm Mr. Monami, a retired U.S. Army veteran. I spent most of my adult life overseas, in Korea, Germany and beyond, and I met Mia in her family's village in the Philippine province in December 2014.

Since then we've lived in the Philippines, Thailand and the United States, raised our daughter, and made plenty of mistakes so you don't have to. We share the whole journey on YouTube, TikTok and Facebook as Mia And Monami.

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Mia And MonamiOne-way, 2026 edition
YOUGuessing
PHLDoing it right
FormatPDF, 79 pp.
Chapters12 + prologue
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SeatLifetime
  • 12 story-driven chapters
  • The CENOMAR check
  • The 20,000-peso money test
  • Red flags and real emergencies
  • First-message template
  • First-trip and airport plan
  • Fiancé visa basics
  • Resources page and full index
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Questions

Who wrote this book?

Mr. Monami, a retired U.S. Army veteran, with his wife Mia. We've been together twelve years and have lived in the Philippines, Thailand and the United States. It's our real story, mistakes included.

How do I get it after I pay?

Right after checkout you'll land on a download page, and we email you the link too. It's a PDF that works on any phone, tablet or computer.

I've already been burned. Is this still for me?

Yes. A whole chapter covers red flags, and another covers money. You'll learn how to tell a bad partner from a good woman with bad influences around her.

Is this legal or immigration advice?

No. It's our honest experience. We point you to the official forms and sources, but for your own case, please talk to a licensed immigration attorney.

Is there a version for Filipinas?

Yes. Mia's version, Dating a Foreigner: The Honest Guide for Filipinas, is written from her side.

What if something is wrong with my file?

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This book shares the authors' personal experience. It is general information, not legal, immigration or financial advice.