Love across an ocean shouldn’t feel like guesswork.
Practical, honest books for Filipinas and the foreign men who love them, written by a couple who has lived every chapter.
Everyone has an opinion. Almost no one has a plan.
Cross-cultural dating is beautiful, but the internet makes it confusing. Comment sections contradict each other, scammers hide in plain sight, and nobody explains what family really means in a Filipino relationship.
- “Is she really interested in me, or in my passport?”
- “Is he serious, or am I just one of many girls he messages?”
- “Why does her family matter so much, and how do I earn their respect?”
- “How do we survive the distance, the time zones, and the doubters?”
Short, honest guides. From both sides of the relationship.
Every book is written together by Mia, a Filipina, and Monami, the American she married. You get the woman’s view and the man’s view, in plain language, with nothing sugar-coated.
Two perspectives
Each topic is written for him and for her, so both of you finally understand the other side.
Protection first
Real red flags and green flags, so you can open your heart without losing your money, time or safety.
Family & culture
The parts nobody explains: faith, family support, respect, and how to be welcomed home.
Browse the Honest Guides
From confused to confident in one evening.
Pick your guide
Choose the book written for where you are: just starting, worried about scams, or planning a future.
Read it tonight
Instant PDF download. Short chapters you can finish in an evening, on any phone or laptop.
Love with clarity
Use the checklists and conversation prompts to move forward with confidence, together.
We’re not experts on paper. We’re a couple who made it work.
Mia is a Filipina. Monami is a retired U.S. Army veteran who has lived around the world. We met, we figured it out the hard way, and now we share everything with a community of over half a million people.
Questions our community asks us every day
These books exist because you kept asking. Each one answers a question we get on almost every video.
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